I used to over-explain. I used to try to convince people why my time, energy, and presence deserved recognition. I used to give too much for free, silly old self , thinking generosity would build loyalty.
It never did. Instead it often lead to resentments and disrespect. What it built was exploitation. Exhaustion. Frustration.
Now? I’ve learned to be selective. To engage with the people who already get it. Who show up ready to honor the exchange, understanding exactly how they Beni fit from My attention and presence- without me having to spell it out.
Respect is not something I beg for. It’s something I started to receive naturally when my standards became clear and non-negotiable. If someone isn’t willing to value what I offer, that’s their choice. I won’t waste my energy justifying it.
Authenticity doesn’t mean explaining everything.
It means showing up as yourself, setting boundaries, confidence to not letting other people decide if they’re worthy of your presence.
