Disclaimer

It’s important for me to say this clearly: nothing I write about my practices or preferences is a critique of other FemDommes. I don’t need to put anyone down in order to elevate myself. The FemDom world is wide, diverse, and full of women who lead in ways that fit their own needs, circumstances, and desires. I’m grateful that I’m in a position where I can choose who I interact with, how I engage, and where my boundaries lie. Not everyone has the same life situation, and that’s perfectly fine. What other women do is none of my business, and I don’t judge it.

I write about my experience, my standards, my evolution, also my missteps, because that’s the only truth I can speak. A lot of what I’ve learned has come through trial and error, sometimes the hard way. I’ve had my energy drained, my time disrespected, my kindness exploited. And I’ve also had moments of breathtaking devotion, loyalty, and connection that reminded me why this lifestyle matters to me in the first place. My writing isn’t a manifesto for how others should do things. It’s a reflection of what has shaped me.

Over time, I’ve become more aligned with what actually works for me: a dynamic grounded in respect, consistency, and genuine enjoyment of the person I’m connecting with. I’m not here to preach a universal formula or claim my way is the “right” way. I simply describe what I’ve discovered about myself and the kind of subs who thrive under my guidance. That’s personal, not prescriptive. It’s introspection, not judgment.

My circle is small, intentionally so. But it’s also deeply appreciated and cherished. The men who stay those who learn with me, adjust with me, and grow with me those are  the reason this lifestyle remains so meaningful. Watching that devotion unfold over years, not weeks, is a privilege I don’t take lightly. And that’s why I write: not to compare, not to compete, but to honor the connection I’ve built with the few who truly belong in my world.